Instructions:

Rate the following statements about your fathering according to how strongly you agree with each statement. This assessment is designed to give you feedback on what areas you may be stronger in and where you may need help. In order to get benefit from this assessment, please answer the questions as honestly as you can.

Scoring: 5=Strongly agree / 4=Agree / 3=Unsure / 2=Disagree / 1=Strongly disagree

Treat your children as capable
1.

I allow my children to do age-appropriate tasks rather than do it for them.
2.

I’m aware of when I’m seeing my child as the problem and can change my behavior
3.

I allow my children to learn from their own mistakes
4.

For the most part, I’m able to refrain from criticizing and judging my children
5.

I encourage my children whenever possible
6.

I’m able to maintain the dignity and respect I have for my children

Taking time and committing to your kids
7.

I enjoy making time and being with my kids
8.

It’s very easy for me to get "fired up" to be a father
9.

Fathering is an extremely high priority for me.
10.

I’m able to accomplish the major tasks I have as a father
11.

I think about my kids often

Using Positive Discipline
12.

I don’t often show my anger when my kids misbehave
13.

I often give my kids choices when disciplining them
14.

I seldom shame my kids
15.

I’m quite aware of effective disciplining methods for my children
16.

I run more of a democracy than an authoritarian government
17.

I don’t often get into power struggles with my kids

Reconciling with your own father
18.

I’m very aware of how my relationship with my own father affects my own fathering
19.

I’m able to forgive my father for his shortcomings as a father
20.

I am well aware of the "hot button" issues that upset me when I’m with my kids
21.

I feel very capable of changing and growing with my children as they grow
22.

I feel pretty positive about my relationship with my father

"Really" listening to your kids
23.

I sometimes reflect back what my kids say to me
24.

My kids feel like they've been heard after talking to me
25.

It’s very important to me to listen well to my children
26.

My kids get my full attention when they talk to me
27.

Most of the time I’m able to listen to my kids without judging them

Being aware of your children’s lives
28.

I know the changing developmental needs of my kids

29.

I know my children’s desires and what inspires them
30.

I'm aware of the problems my kids are having right now
31.

I ask my kids about their lives often
32.

I know my child’s world; their friends, fears, joys, etc.

Your Emotional Intelligence
33.

I'm comfortable sharing my feelings with my kids (age-appropriate)
34.

I tell my kids what I like about them
35.

I am constantly encouraging my children
36.

I consistently tell my kids that I love them
37.

I show affection to my kids
38.

I show my kids I care, even when they're not at their best
= TOTAL
Scoring:
190-180 = Incredible. Congratulations on being such an amazing dad!
179-165 = Very good. You're on track with some great fathering.
164-148 = Good You're doing well and still have some areas where you could improve.
147-130 = Average. Why not make fathering a priority and score higher within the next two months?
129-110 = Below average. There's alot that could be improved upon.
109-000 = Ouch! Why do you think your score is here? Something is going on here, can you get some help on it?

Scoring below 20 points on any of the individual sections would indicate that this is an area that could be improved upon.. Good luck and happy fathering!
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